Do you want to overcome shyness and be confident? Do you want to always make great conversation with anyone? We all want to be social, make friends, and develop good people skills, The more connections we make, the more the world opens up and consequently, the better we naturally feel about yourself.
Here are a few ways you can start and maintain a conversation.
Always give people compliment and attach it to a question:
- That’s a very good sweater. Would you mind telling me where you got it? Or your hairstyle is great. Do you have any preferred salon?
- Initiate a common conversation but ensure you participate fully so that it doesn’t feel like an interrogation: What do you think of this weather? Or what have you been up to since I last saw you?
You could ask open ended questions.
- What was your major at college? Do you like reading?
Ask “If you could only” questions.
- If you are asked to pick anyone, who would you like to spend a day with? You are stuck somewhere for years. What five books would you take with you?
Here are some first date ice-breakers.
- Where in the country did you grow up?
- What was it like growing up in your city?
- Do you like movies and who is your favorite actor?
Start a conversation at work.
- How did your weekend go?
- How is your day going? Hope you are doing great?
- Do you have a vacation planned?
Find a common ground.
- Do you love music? What type do you listen to?
- Who is your favorite author?
- Do you like to travel?
- Have you travelled to any other country before?
- Can you tell me about your dream vacation?
“Would you rather” questions
- Would you rather go without drinking or without a smart phone for a year?
- Would you rather be the smartest person or the most popular person in your social group?
Let’s get serious
- If you were granted 3 wishes, but you could only use them to wish for material things, what would you wish for?
- Who has had the most influence on creating you as a person? If you were to choose your own first name, what would you have chosen?
Create a great non-verbal impression
- Make Eye contact
- Open up your posture
- Forward lean
- Nod when the other person talks
- Touch by shaking hands
- Simply introduce yourself
This is not going to work in every set up but quite often, when you really find it difficult to come up with an appealing conversation, apply the direct approach. Walk up to the person, stick out your hand and say, “Hi, I’m so-and-so, I just wanted to introduce myself” that will make the listener feel important and want to talk to you.
You must release yourself to confidently start and maintain a conversation, remove any limits you have placed on yourself and be a no-limit thinker.
Fight off your doubts and anxieties and start the conversation anyway, once you have improved your inner game the second step of conversation naturally happens. You feel confident and able to talk about anything.