The next time you have conversation with a lady you just met and believe that she’s without doubt attracted to you, ask her if she recalls exactly what the first thing you said to her was. Most likely 90% of the time, she won’t have an idea. Don’t get worried, this isn’t because your opening wasn’t great or you weren’t impressive enough. It’s due to the fact that women pay a great deal of attention to nonverbal communication and body language compared to men. During the first few minute of your approach, a woman could care less about the actual words you say to her – unless of course it’s something extremely weird. The reason is because her mind will be too busy refining your body language and the non-verbal signals you are giving out. And all through your conversation she will just be observing and dissecting these non-verbal signs.
However even while a woman is observing your body language, she will be giving out non-verbal signals of her own that are supposed to let you know if she’s interested in you or not. It’s just like having little sign-posts to help guide you straight into seduction junction. The trick is in knowing how to read these signals.
Understand the basics of the woman’s body language.
- Her eyes
There are lots of things that a woman’s eyes can show you all through the entire courtship process.
For instance, if you happen to be standing across a room from a woman that you’re interested in and your eyes meet, take note if she keeps eye-contact for longer than some seconds. If she looks away quickly then most likely she’s either shy or not actually interested. But if she keeps steady eye-contact for longer than two or three seconds, you can surely take that as an invitation to approach her. And if she locks eyes with you many times, she’s realistically screaming for you to get over there and converse with her.
At times you’ll possibly notice a woman’s pupils dilate while she’s being attentive to you talk. Our pupils dilate in low light scenarios and when we’re having feelings of extreme attraction and desire.
- Her lips
Look closely at what’s she’s doing with her lips. When a woman is interested in a guy, she will generally smile and laugh far more routinely, whether or not the guy is really funny or not. So if a woman often smiles at any time you look at her or if she slips in a little giggle once you start talking to her, this is an obvious sign that she’s interested in you.
At times you’ll also notice a lady gently bite or lick her lower lips while conversing with you. Or she’ll occasionally make a show of putting on her lipstick before you. You see, a woman’s mouth is similar to a sexual gateway and these little things that she does are typically designed to draw your attention to her mouth. So if you observe a woman doing some of these things, she’s certainly sexually attracted to you and would like you to make a move on her.
- Her physical distance
Whenever you are flirting with a woman if you observe that she is apparently getting closer and closer to you, take that as an obvious sign of attraction and ease. Usually this is an invitation to intensify your flirting. In this kind of an instance open up your posture a little and give her the opportunity to get closer and closer to you.
But, if a woman appears to be slowly distancing herself from you or if she leans back any time you lean in to talk to her, take that as an obvious sign that she does not like what you’re doing.
- Her actions
Perhaps you have observed how when you’re hanging out with a group of friends that you at times start mirroring their physical moves? Psychologists have a phrase for this known as “postural echo.” It is an involuntary response that shows comfort and connection. Lean in and notice if she leans also. Get your drink and lookout to see if she picks hers up too. If she does, it is a strong sign that she’s interested in you.